So for our 5th date we go to dinner in my neighborhood at the local sushi place. We eat and chat and it’s feeling a little awkward because I know we are going to come back to my house and have sex for the first time.

I have had no issues falling into bed with other dates, but the build up for this and my hesitance because of his height has made this seem like a bigger deal than it should be.

We come back to my house after dinner and spend some time making out before heading up to the bedroom. Clothes come off and we get going but there is no resolution. He is good with his mouth, tries too hard with his hands and we never actually have full sex.

I realize after he leaves that he was so busy trying to bring me pleasure, that he never fully undressed – what’s up with that? And it wasn’t for lack of trying.

I feel like there wasn’t as deep a connection in bed as there has been in all our dates. We had fun but this was a bust. There were awkward moments when we were standing and he actually was having issues because he is short – and i am not that tall but physical fit matters.

Frankly, it seems better to get it over with earlier because if there isn’t any sexual chemistry I am not sure what the point is.

Although, all dates shouldn’t be like the first/second/third/fourth with Mr. charisma, getting the sex question out of the way early is a good thing in my book.

Maybe one more try and see if this works. If not I might have to cut my losses here or make up for it elsewhere.

[postscript – he went overseas for a couple of weeks and then reached out when he returned. I was booked all week and said lets try for the next week but he hasn’t responded. I think my inability to jump all over him when he returned has cooled the fires so to speak.