We met on OkC and we set up a date for a coupe of weeks out. We confirmed earlier in the week. I head out to the Mission theater bar and wait and wait. I text him to make sure he knows where I am, and he texts back that he thought it was tomorrow. Ugh. He is at home – in the southbay. 40 minutes away.
He asks if I would wait and by this time, I am on the bus back home. So I tell him that. He apologizes profusely, meanwhile I am almost home and eventually back in my neighborhood and walking back to my house.
I finally relent and tell him to meet me in an hour at the bar around the corner from my house and to text me when he gets into the neighborhood.
He texts and I walk to the bar and hang around out front waiting for him to park. He gets out of his car and heads towards me – he is a little shorter than I pictured but not too short.
We hug and he thanks me for meeting him. We go in and he buys us drinks and we chat for a couple of hours and a couple of drinks. He is funny and interesting.
My bedtime calls so we head out and he gives me some nice good bye kisses and I walk on home.
Later in the week we text a bunch and he asks me out again. I am booked all week so we set a date for the next week to putt-putt golf.
We meet there and we grab a drink and sit for a bit chatting then move into the putt putt area. it’s a lot of fun and I lose totally but we chat and laugh. A perfect date.
Afterwards we walk over to Missions street and go up to the rooftop bar and have a couple more drinks.
He brings me home and we kiss goodbye in his car. I don’t invite him in but we talk about seeing each other again.
Later we text and I bring up that we need to have the sex talk. And then he tells me full flat out about some issues and that he is ok with whatever I decide. I tell him that I like him and am interested in seeing him but will have boundaries and that I am still considering what they are.
This is where having multiple partners gets tricky. What is my risk level? What is my comfort level for myself or for my other partners? Not sure I am ready to go here yet. I may have to bail on him because of this.